Here’s why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

Jenny Whichello, Bliss + Wealth
3 min readJan 19, 2024

The fireworks fade, confetti settles, and our New Year’s resolutions echo in our minds. We vow to become gym-dwelling athletes, voracious readers, or culinary wizards. But by February, gym memberships gather dust, unread books mock us from shelves, and takeout reigns supreme. Why does this cycle of ambition and abandonment define our attempts at change?

It’s time for a Resolution Revolution. Forget the fad diets and unrealistic budgets. Let’s ditch the guilt-inducing failure of quick fixes and embrace a slow, deliberate burn — a metamorphosis rather than a makeover.

Why New Year’s Resolutions Crash and Burn:

All or Nothing Mentality: Drastic changes shock our system. Our “new year, new me” declarations set us up for a spectacular fall from grace. Instead, focus on small, sustainable shifts. Trade daily gym marathons for brisk walks and gradually build up. Instead of overhauling your whole financial life, start by getting organized.

Ignoring the “Why”: Why do we want that six-pack or that bestseller badge? If the motivation fizzles, so will the resolution. Find your “why” — the deeper desire for health, self-expression, or connection. That intrinsic drive will fuel your journey. Visualize what success feels like on December 31st.

Setting Unrealistic Goals: Aiming for Mount Everest on your first hike leads to discouragement. Start with gentle slopes, savor the scenery, and build your confidence for steeper inclines later. Celebrate milestones, not just the summit. Instead of saving 20% of your income, start with 5% and then build up from there.

Neglecting Environment: Surround yourself with support! Share your goals with like-minded people, swap gym buddy high fives, and join online communities. A coach can boost your motivation, provide tactical guidance, and keep you accountable.

The New Year’s Resolution Revolution Manifesto:

Want to turn your resolutions into results this year? Prime yourself for success first, build momentum, and then sustain it through to year-end.

Focus on Progress, Not Perfection:

Small, consistent steps win the race over unsustainable sprints. Celebrate each step, stumble back up, and keep moving forward.

Unleash the “Why”:

Dig deep. What do you truly desire? Connect your goals to your deepest values and aspirations. That’s the fuel that keeps you going when the going gets tough.

Turn New Year’s Resolutions into S.M.A.R.T. Goals:

Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. “Get control of my debt” is vague. “Pay off my American Express card by September 1st” is actionable and trackable.

Build Your Ecosystem:

Surround yourself with positive influences. Find a money coach or accountability partner. Shared goals and encouragement are powerful motivators.

Be Kind to Yourself:

We all stumble. Forgive setbacks, learn from them, and adjust your course. Don’t let a slip-up derail your entire revolution.

Celebrate Each Milestone:

Take time to acknowledge your progress, big or small. A pat on the back keeps the momentum going.

Turn your New Year’s Resolutions into a New You Revolution.

This revolution isn’t about quick fixes or drastic transformations. It’s about understanding ourselves, setting realistic goals, and fostering a supportive environment. It’s about building lasting change, brick by brick, fueled by our deepest desires and celebrated along the way.

So, let’s ditch the crash-and-burn resolutions. Let’s ignite a sustainable fire, a slow and steady revolution that transforms us one mindful step at a time. This year, let’s make changes that stick, not trends that fade. Let’s build a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling version of ourselves — one empowered by the Resolution Revolution.

Remember, lasting change isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Pace yourself, enjoy the journey, and celebrate every stride. This year, let’s rewrite the script and make resolutions that change our lives, not just the calendar.

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Jenny Whichello, Bliss + Wealth

On a mission to help the next generation of unstoppable women have blissful relationships with money while building wealth! Free resources @ blissandwealth.com